God Almighty said: “And live with them in kindness” [Quran 4:19].

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Treat women well, for woman was created from a rib, and the most curved part of the rib is its top. If you try to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, it remains curved. So treat women well.” Agreed upon [Bukhari and Muslim].

In some narrations of this hadith: “Woman was created from a rib and will never be straight on a path. If you enjoy her, you enjoy her while there is crookedness in her, and if you go to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.” Narrated by Muslim.

And the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Treat women well, for they are like captives with you. You have no authority over them beyond that…” Narrated by Tirmidhi and others.

Many of us have heard stories of men who mistreat their wives as if they were slaves to a tyrannical master. We see them becoming skilled in torturing and insulting them, sometimes even hitting their faces, making the home an unbearable hell. [“Towards a Muslim Family” by al-Istanbuli].

None of this is among the characteristics of righteous men. Islam has forbidden such behavior, and among the last recommendations of the Messenger (peace be upon him) was: “… Treat women well.” Agreed upon.

Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah said: I asked the Messenger of Allah, “What is the right of one’s wife upon him?” He said: “That you feed her when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her face, do not insult her, and do not boycott her except in the house.” Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Majah. The meaning of “do not insult her” is do not make her hear what is hateful, do not curse her, and do not say “may Allah make you ugly” or similar things.

My Muslim brother: I remind you to be gentle with your wife, treat her well, and respect her position, especially in front of her children. Weakening her personality has many risks and disadvantages. “Indeed, among the believers with the most complete faith are those with the best character and who are most gentle with their families.” Narrated by Tirmidhi who deemed it good.

My brother: Do not seek perfection in this universe, but seek the best available! Have you thought about yourself and whether you are perfect and free from defects?

The truth is that we are all under the sieve, so there is no need to demand perfection from others while we are drowning in our own flaws, taking advantage of women’s weakness and poverty. If we are stronger than them, then Allah is stronger than us.

It was said in the noble hadith: “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her traits, he will be pleased with another.” Narrated by Muslim.

A man asked Al-Hassan bin Ali (may Allah be pleased with them both): “I have a daughter, and she has suitors. Whom should I marry her to?” He said: “Marry her to someone who fears Allah, for if he loves her, he will honor her, and if he dislikes her, he will not wrong her.” [Al-‘Iqd Al-Fareed].