- First, teach the child the Holy Quran, basic principles of Sharia, and the biographies of prophets and righteous people.
- Instill in the child the habit of obeying parents, respecting them, and showing respect and obedience to teachers and mentors.
- Keep the child away from bad children because temperaments and habits are transferred through imitation.
- When a child does something good, praise them openly. However, if they make a mistake, reprimand them in private so that their status doesn’t diminish among their peers. Excessive criticism reduces a child’s interest in good deeds. Teach the child humility and instill dislike for arrogance.
- Develop habits of patience and perseverance so that when the child is punished, they neither cry nor start screaming or fighting.
- Accustom the child to give up soft foods and bedding, and instill in their heart a love for moderation in eating.
- Prevent the child from using abusive language and bad words.
- Warn the child against sinful acts and inform them about the bad consequences of sins such as theft, dishonesty, harmful speech or actions, and unlawful earnings.
- When the child finishes studying, give them time for play and physical exercise, and instill in their heart a love for physical activities that do not cause them to neglect religious and necessary worldly duties.
- It is necessary to pay attention to the child’s upbringing from the first day of their life because the child’s soul is pure, clean, and unblemished. Whatever is imprinted on it will leave its mark on their pure soul. Therefore, it is also necessary that the woman who breastfeeds the child should be righteous and religious.
In conclusion, I pray that Allah grants us righteous and well-wishing children. (Ameen)
عودُ بَنِيكَ عَلَى الأَدَابِ فِي الصِغَرِ كَى مَا تَقَرَّبِهِمْ عَيْنَاكَ فِي الْكِبَرِ
Accustom your children to good manners in their childhood so that your eyes may be comforted by them when they grow up.
فَإِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الآدَابِ تَجْمَعُهَا فِي عُنْفُوَانِ الصَّبَا كَالنَّقْشِ عَلَى الحَجَرِ
The manners you acquire and gather from childhood become engraved in your mind like inscriptions on stone.
هِيَ الكُنُورُ الَّتِي تَنْمُو ذَخَائِرُهَا وَلاَ يَخَافُ عَلَيْهَا حَادِثِ الْغَيْرِ
These good manners are like treasures whose reserves continue to grow, and there is no fear of them being plundered by others.
إِنَّ الْأَدِيبَ إِذَا زَلْتُ بِهِ قَدَمٌ يَهْوِى عَلَى فُرُشِ الدِّيبَاجِ وَالسُّرُرِ
Indeed, when a well-mannered person’s foot slips, they fall only upon silken cushions and beds.
