Part of treating one’s wife well is to show affection toward her, call her by the names she loves most, and honor her with what pleases her. This includes honoring her family by praising them in front of her, exchanging visits with them, and inviting them for special occasions.

It also includes listening to what she has to say, respecting her opinion, and taking her advice when she offers sound counsel. Generally, anything that is considered good in religion and custom is part of living with her honorably.

This includes having good character with her, tolerating any harm from her, and showing patience during her impulsiveness and anger.

Beyond tolerating harm, one should engage in playfulness, joking, and fun with her, as these gladden women’s hearts. The Messenger of Allah used to joke with women and accommodate their level of understanding in various matters.

Omar said: “A man should be like a child with his family, but when they seek what he has (of wisdom and strength), they find a man.”

A husband should develop a sense of humor and cheerfulness at times in his home, especially with his wife, to bring joy to her heart, ease the harshness of life, and remove tension resulting from the nature of life and work. All of this helps strengthen the bonds of love between spouses.

Al-Zuhri reported that Abu al-Darda said to his wife: “When you see me angry, try to please me, and when I see you angry, I will try to please you. Otherwise, we cannot remain together.” Al-Zuhri said: “This is how companions should be.”